Adam Samuel Eaker looked forward to an evening of music, the night he met Brandon Patrick George in March 2019. However, it was not meant to be part of the program to fall for the musician.
Dr. Eaker, an associate curator of European paintings at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York, had previously spent more than a year putting together the exhibition “In Praise of Painting: Dutch Masterpieces at the Met,” his first at the museum, which opened in October. 2018.
For the MetLiveArts series in 2019, the museum had hired Mr. George, a flutist and member of Imani Winds, a classical wind quintet based in New York, to play baroque music inspired by the exhibition.
Da Mr. George, who is also a faculty member at the Curtis Institute of Music in Philadelphia, arrived at the event, he immediately noticed Dr. Eaker and told his accompanist that he thought Dr. Eaker was sweet.
“I really wanted to get to know him,” Mr. George, 35,.
Dr. Eaker presented Mr. George for the participants, and after an approx. 30 minutes concert took Mr. George a break to give a new audience the opportunity to cycle through the exhibition. The two men began chatting and quickly became attached to their love of art. Mr. George asked Dr. Eaker, if he wanted to have dinner for a while, but Dr. Eaker was unaware that he meant more than just new friends.
“I think it’s been a long work week, and it just did not register for me that Brandon asked me for a date,” said Dr. Eaker, 36. But when the men matched up on the dating app OkCupid about two weeks after their first meeting, it was clear that each had interests beyond friendship.
They met for Malaysian food in Manhattan and talked about opera and their respective jobs. A few days later, Mr. George at the Met again. Even though they had been on a date, Dr. Eaker that he felt shy when he saw him.
They kept seeing each other. In May 2019, the men started introducing each other to their friends. That July, they took a trip to Portland, Maine, because Mr. George played a concert at Bowdoin College in Brunswick, Maine.
“We had a great time and ended up falling in love with Maine,” said Dr. Eaker. “At the same time, we fell in love with each other.”
They had already started talking about moving in together when the pandemic hit. Although it was earlier than they had planned, Mr. moved. George easily into Dr. Eakers apartment. They baked and made cocktails together and enjoyed the extra time they spent together because Mr. George’s job often involved travel.
“The fact that we ended up spending more than 365 days together without interruption was a kind of gift, even in the middle of a really awful time,” said Dr. Eaker.
In September 2020, Mr. George Dr. Eaker by courting in front of a group of their close friends on the stairs to the Met, which their friends had adorned with rose petals.
The couple were married Oct. 16 at First Parish Portland Unitarian Universalist Church in Portland, Maine, before about 100 guests were vaccinated against coronavirus. Limor Tomer, a friend of the couple, who was ordained by the Open Ministry for the occasion, presided over the ceremony, which incorporated African-American Baptist and Jewish traditions.
“Adam is just the most ingenious man I know,” said Mr. George. “With Adam, I feel at home and I feel that he is my person. In fact, I could not be happier. ”