Dear Zindagi was a goldmine of a movie when it comes to life advice. The best movie to revisit when you feel lost and low, it is full of things to keep in mind to preserve its sanity and take care of its mental health.
As the film turns five years old, here is a revisit of these lessons, especially considering how many of us have had to contend with a lot of grief in the last two years.
1. Do not forget that your brain needs as much TLC as any other organ in your body
The last two years have been so stressful, with our health, financial stability and the safety of our loved ones at risk, that we have not been able to think about our mental health. We tell ourselves it’s just in our head and it does not matter. But just because something is in our heads, does not mean it is not genuine. Our brain is that most important organ in our body, without which nothing else can function.
So it is important to remember that the health of our mind matters. Shah Rukh’s line from the film sums it up best: “Yahaan par abhi bhi, still, log ye samajhte hain ki dimaag ki problem hona bohot sharm ki baat hai. Body ki problem, Oops normal Hello. You know, jo ki sabko bata sakte hain: ‘Hey guys, I’m in the hospital. Mujhe kidney failure Hello yes lung infection, jaundice. Lekin agar dimaag ki problem ho, toh saari ki saari family ekdum quietly. Jaise Dimaag Humari body ka hissa hej nahi hai.”
2. Break the pattern
We’ve all been stuck because many of the things we used to do for fun were not an option for the last two years. So we woke up every day and did the same thing in the same room, day after day. The lack of a positive change of scenery affected us all. Therefore, it is important to remember that scene from Dear Zindagi when Kaira and Dr. Jehangir is cycling for a change just because it is important to break the monotony.
It represents how, when we are low and dissatisfied with life, we have to change what we do to end a situation that does not serve us well. As Jehangir says: “Albert Einstein ne kaha tha pagal who hota hai jo roz-roz same comb Karta hai, magar chahta hai ki nateeja alag ho. “
3. Trials and errors in love are necessary to find the right one
We often beat ourselves up after a relationship ends, thinking, “Why can’t I find the right person? Why do I have to go through so many failed relationships? Why does it not work with this one partner I thought I would end up with with?” The fact is that we have to kiss a few frogs before we find our prince or princess.If we do not experience relationships with different people, then how can we even know what kind of partner makes us happy?
Here’s how Dr. Jehangir explains that it is nothing but trial and error:
“Kya tumne kursi khareedi hai? Kya tumne dukaan mein jaate hi pehli kursi pasand kar li aur khareed li? Ek kursi khareedne se pehle, hum kitni saari kursiyan dekhte hain, kitni saari kursiyan sample map hain. And yes, some Route are comfortable but look like shit. Others look nice but are tough on the butt.
So the process starts, chair after chair after chair-how many Route we check out before we find to one chair. So my point is, ek kursi choose karne se pehle, agar hum itni saari kursiyan dekhte hain, toh ek life partner choose karne se pehle, humein opportunities nahi dekhne chahiye kya? ”
4. There are many loves in one’s life, not just one perfect, great love
We put a lot of pressure on our romantic relationship by expecting one person to be everything to us. We expect this person to meet all our needs when it is not humanly possible. Not only is such thinking a disservice to all the other forms of love in our lives, such as friendship, parental love or just platonic love over common interests, but it also burdens a relationship with unrealistic demands.
Dr. Jehangir spoke of the importance of appreciating and enjoying all the different forms of love that come our way and enjoying it, instead of seeking out an all-rounder of a human being in our partner: “Why just the one special rishta? zindagi mein kai particular rishte hote hain, alag-alag ehsason ke liye, alag-alag particular rishte. As a special musical rishta with someone jo humara musical taste bilkul share map ho. Or the special ‘let-get-coffee-together’ rishta– perfect to drink coffee with, but nothing else.
And special gossip rishta. Or the particular intellectual rishta, for all the perfect kitabon-wali discussions. So many different specials recently. Yes romantic wala rishta in mein se sirf ek hai. Sab rishton ke ehsason ke zimmedari, ye bojh kisi ek rishte pe daalna, a little unfair no? ”
5. Not everything worth having should involve taking a painful or difficult route
Struggle is truly romanticized in our society, where we think we have to go through difficulties to earn something worth having, as if the pain is an exchange, a payment for happiness. This way of thinking just exposes us to excess mental trauma and destroys our lives.
Dr. Jehangir tells Caira a story to illustrate this. “Pyarelal Ji ke zindagi ka sabse bada khwaab tha mushkil se mushkil pahad chadhna, Mount Everest straight ahead. Toh aakhir ek din, Mount Everest chadhne ka mauka mil hi gaya. pyarelal ji na socha na samjha na tayyari ki, jhat se nikal pade.
Chadhai ka group dheere dheere dheere pahad par chadhne laga, lekin Pyarelal Ji, full josh mein sabse aage nikal gaye. Achanak Pyarelal Ji ke saamne ek ghoorta ghurrata snow leopard aa gaya. Snow leopard bechaare Pyarelal Ji ko kha gaya. “
He then explained what this story represents: “Kabhi kabhi hum mushkil rasta sirf isliye chunte hain, kyunki humein lagta hai important cheezein paane ke liye humein mushkil raasta apnana chahiye. Apne aap ko punish karna bohot zaroori samajhte hain. But why? Aasaan raasta kyun nahi chun sakte? What is burai hai usme? Bekaar ke pahad kyun chadhe? ”
Are these golden lessons not to be remembered? Here are some more movies focusing on mental health that you can also watch.
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