My partner has a secret “Get Out” fund. What should I do?

But last week, I found out she has a separate savings account she never mentioned. A secret bank account, with a nice pillow of money. I feel stunned, but it’s hard to express what I feel for her. I felt like we were on a journey together, as young adults in our 20s, not making a lot of money, but coping and hopefully heading upwards. Now, though, I feel like we are does not in this together – we just happen to go the same way. She tried to explain that she did not keep it hidden, this money was irrelevant to our lives and our finances because it was a last resort “came out” fund – something she only uses if a serious relationship becomes toxic and she need an escape hatch. But it only made me feel worse, as if she’s always had a foot out the door. I do not know how to organize my feelings around this, or how to talk to her about it further.

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